Is it the man or the woman who makes a boy or a girl?

In this game we have three players. The man (he makes the sperm and these can be either X for a girl, or Y for a boy), the woman (she provides the egg with only X sex-linked chromosomes), and the baby, who can be XX (girl) or XY (boy).

The man has two testicles where sperm are made. These are not gender specific, e.g. one for girl sperm and the other for boy sperm! Although it takes a full three months (72 days) for a sperm to develop, men are making millions of sperm all the time. At this production rate, there are bound to be mistakes and a high percentage of the three to five hundred million sperm ejaculated are rejects. Studies have shown that men who ejaculate between three and four times a week have healthy, motile sperm.

baby boy and girl
Baby boy and girl

 Your partner can improve his sperm count by:

  • Wearing boxers – tight underpants keep the testicles close to the body where it’s hot. Sperm can overheat and die
  • Not sitting for too long or cycling – again, sperm overheat
  • Stop smoking (especially cannabis) and drinking alcohol
  • Having regular sex.

When a couple plan to have a specific gender, their sex life depends on the woman’s ovulation – a few days in the middle of her cycle when her body is fertile – and which sperm (the X or the Y) reaches her egg first.

 You will know when your body is fertile when:

  • Your body temperature dips, then rises slightly above normal
  • Your labia feels fuller
  • You have a wet and slippery vaginal secretion
  • High libido.

Healthy, motile sperm consist of a head, neck and tail. The head is covered with a little ‘helmet’ or acrosome to help the sperm burrow into the egg. The neck has little ‘energy tanks’ that help the long tail to swish from side to side, pushing the sperm forward at the speed of 20cm per hour! Y sperm swim a bit faster because they’re lighter, but they’re not quite as resilient as the X sperm.

X sperm swim a bit slower, but they’re more cautious. When sperm are released in seminal fluid (about one teaspoonful) and deposited into the vagina, their survival depends on whether the woman’s body is fertile or not.

Boy-girl recipe

To conceive a girl, the couple should have sex at the start of ovulation but before the egg is released (when her body temperature dips). When this happens, Y sperm who get to the fallopian tube first find it empty so they die. X sperm that swim up a bit later, find the egg waiting. X meets up with X and the baby is XX – a girl.

To conceive a boy, the couple should use a condom until the woman is sure that she has ovulated – some women feel a distinct pain in the pelvis called mittelschmertz. Her vaginal mucous will be very wet, slippery and stretchy like raw egg white. Position and diet are irrelevant. Penetration specifics don’t not make sperm swim faster and what you eat does not change semen or vaginal secretions. When sperm are ejaculated, the Y sperm quickly pass through the cervix – where they’re also energised by cervical mucous – and once recharged, race to the fallopian tube. When they get there, the egg is waiting, Y penetrates X. This equals XY – a boy.

A gynecologist is required at every stage of female since a female body goes through many changes at every stage like puberty, pregnancy or menopause. So,it is advisable to see a gynaecologist at every stage of your life or whenever you feel the need.

Let’s see some of the best gynecologists in Delhi/NCR who you can consult.

Dr. Pinky Mishra has done her MBBS and DGO from an eminent Aligarh Muslim University. She has done DNB from the prestigious Holy family Hospital. She further specializes in the field of gynaecology.. She has more than 10 years of experience obstetrics and gynaecology.

Dr. Alka Malhotra is a recognized Gynecologist and Obstetrician based in Kalkaji region of New Delhi. Dr. Malhotra persists an experience of 29 years in her medical fields. Dr. Alka Malhotra practices at Dharm Clinic in Kalkaji, Delhi and Lions Kidney Hospital & Urology Institute in New Friends Colony, Delhi.

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